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luci
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Wife Of Okla. Warden Found After 10 Yrs.
« on: Apr 10^th, 2005, 4:21pm »

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Mother held by fugitive returns home
Woman says she stayed with convict out of fear.

NACOGDOCHES, Texas (AP)) -- Her husband at her side, her children just hours away, Bobbi Parker headed home to Oklahoma on Wednesday for the first time since she vanished along with an inmate after a prison break 11 years ago.

Parker, the wife of an assistant warden, disappeared with fugitive killer Randolph Dial in 1994 during his escape from an Oklahoma prison. Dial was arrested Monday, and authorities believe he kept Parker from escaping all those years by threatening to hurt her family.

"Our indications are from our initial investigation that she was in fact kidnapped and held against her will," Oklahoma City FBI spokesman Gary Johnson said Wednesday.

Parker, 42, spent Tuesday night with her husband, Randy Parker, who was an assistant warden when Dial escaped and is now warden of a different prison. Nacogdoches County Justice of the Peace Donna Clayton witnessed their reunion earlier Tuesday.

"They just looked at each other, and both of them took a deep breath, and the next thing I knew, both of them were hugging and crying," Clayton said. "I think on both their parts it was, 'Are you really there?"'

A tip generated by the TV show "America's Most Wanted" led law enforcement to Dial, who was arrested at a mobile home in Campti, a tiny community near the Louisiana border.

While some questioned how Bobbi Parker could have been held so long against her will, her boss said Wednesday that the mother of two was imprisoned by fear and stayed with her captor to protect her family.

"She sacrificed her life for her family's safety," said Martha Rash, who along with her husband owns the chicken farm where Parker and Dial lived and worked for five years.

Rash said that before Dial's arrest she thought Dial controlled Parker and that the pair seemed to be running from something, but she had no idea he was an escaped killer. Rash said Parker told her more about the relationship after Dial's arrest.

Rash said Dial convinced Parker that he had close ties to the Mafia and would harm her family if she left. She said those fears persisted even as Parker anticipated Wednesday's reunion with two daughters she could only dream about for 11 years.

"She still, I think, was in that kind of state," Rash said. "Even now, she fears for her children."

Dial, a sculptor and painter, was convicted of the 1981 murder of a karate instructor. He had obtained trusty status at the Oklahoma State Reformatory in Granite and ran an inmate pottery program with Bobbi Parker.

Dial, who had access to the Parkers' home and staff housing on prison grounds, allegedly took Parker at knifepoint in the family's minivan in 1994.

Dial waived extradition and arrived at the Oklahoma State Penitentiary in McAlester early Wednesday and was placed in the top-security unit, Corrections Department spokesman Jerry Massie said.

Dial told reporters in a jailhouse interview Tuesday that he had held Parker hostage and that their relationship was never romantic.

"She was living under the impression if she ever tried to get away, I would get away and I would make her regret it, particularly toward her family," Dial said. "I didn't mean it, but she didn't know that."

The FBI and Oklahoma law enforcement officials were still deciding who will lead the investigation, said Richard Goss of the Oklahoma State Bureau of Investigation.

Clayton, the justice of the peace, said Randy Parker spent a lot of time talking to his wife about their daughters, who were 8 and 10 when she disappeared. He said they remembered her as a good mother, and Clayton said Bobbi Parker was "soaking it all up."

The younger daughter will graduate from high school this year, and the older daughter has plans to go to nursing school.

Rash said the couple shared the same concern when they were reunited: that the other had moved on and wouldn't be interested in getting back together. But Rash and Clayton said it didn't take long for that fear to subside.

"I would say that they were inseparable," Clayton said. "I don't think either one of them wanted to let the other out of their sight."

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« Reply #1 on: Apr 10^th, 2005, 7:10pm »

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I wish the Parkers the best, but 10 years is such a long time apart, and life does change people.

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« Reply #2 on: Apr 11^th, 2005, 9:15am »

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Yes it is, Pocket. If she was so fearful of Dial, it may take her a long time to get over that kind of fear.
What I fail to understand is why she never even tried to make at least one phone call. I do think [knowing me] I would have been daresome enough to try and take my chances to get back to my family. People are different and this family has lost 10 years. I wish them the rest of their lives happy and unafraid.

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« Reply #3 on: Apr 11^th, 2005, 1:01pm »

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The whole thing seems a little odd...

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« Reply #4 on: Apr 11^th, 2005, 1:14pm »

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I didn't want to be the one to say it, but i agree Rhune.

She could have called her family on countless occasions. This whole thing is fishy to me. After 10 years he obviously didn't need her as a hostage anymore. WHat would he have cared if she just never came home one day?

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« Reply #5 on: Apr 11^th, 2005, 8:28pm »

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I'm with Rhune and AOM, although I don't really know enough about it. I suppose it is possible, but my cynicism says something smells here.

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« Reply #6 on: Apr 11^th, 2005, 10:00pm »

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It is my understanding that this woman did make a couple of phone calls to her family early on, but none in recent years.

The situation this woman succumbed to is called. . . .The Stockholm syndrome

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« Reply #7 on: Apr 12^th, 2005, 8:32am »

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My thought exactly Bumper ....

Stockholm Syndrome describes the behavior of kidnap victims who, over time, become sympathetic to their captors. The name derives from a 1973 hostage incident in Stockholm, Sweden. At the end of six days of captivity in a bank, several kidnap victims actually resisted rescue attempts, and afterwards refused to testify against their captors.
While some people are suggesting the recent Elizabeth Smart kidnapping sounds like a case of Stockholm Syndrome, the most famous incident in the U.S. involved the kidnapped heiress Patty Hearst. Captured by a radical political group known as the Symbionese Liberation Army in 1974, Ms. Hearst eventually became an accomplice of the group, taking on an assumed name and assisting them in several bank robberies. After her re-capture, she denounced the group and her involvement.

What causes Stockholm Syndrome? Captives begin to identify with their captors initially as a defensive mechanism, out of fear of violence. Small acts of kindness by the captor are magnified, since finding perspective in a hostage situation is by definition impossible. Rescue attempts are also seen as a threat, since it's likely the captive would be injured during such attempts.

It's important to note that these symptoms occur under tremendous emotional and often physical duress. The behavior is considered a common survival strategy for victims of interpersonal abuse, and has been observed in battered spouses, abused children, prisoners of war, and concentration camp survivors.

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« Reply #8 on: Apr 12^th, 2005, 8:44am »

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I know about the Stockholm syndrome. And maybe she had it, but that doesn't explain why she didn't call her family when she had ample opportunity. I mean after ten years, if she really felt like a "friend" to her captor, she would have at least Broached the subject of a phone call home.

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« Reply #9 on: Apr 12^th, 2005, 9:27am »

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We remember very well when this happened, as the highway by the prison is on our way to Branson. We also had a lot of questions, and have often wondered if she ever was found. Now we know!

He was a trusty, they worked together in the pottery shop.
I truly believe someone could be this scared, but I sure don't understand it.

Hopefully it will work out for the couple and their two daughters. It appears to me this woman will need a lot of counseling to overcome fear.

« Last Edit: Apr 12^th, 2005, 9:28am by luci »

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