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Sheisback
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Re: Try on my shoes.....
« on: Jun 9^th, 2003, 3:39pm »

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My score : 54

I guess I can consider it "average"...

Somewhat heterosexist(Your score was 10 - 75):
You are somewhat heterosexist if you scored within the range of 10 to 75. If the majority of your answers were those scored as "3", then your heterosexism may simply stem from our society's assumption that everyone is straight - & now that you've given it some thought, then you can readily start acknowledging that this is not the case & begin to act accordingly. Some of those answers that scored as "3" could also indicate that you were not exposed to anyone who was outwardly lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgendered and that you are curious. The important thing to remember about some of the questions you may have always wanted to ask is that sexual orientation is just one component of anyone's identity - & it is such a core component, that some of the questions may be impossible to answer. "I am who I am, I don't know why." Other questions that you may have wanted to ask are deeply personal and/or could be potentially hurtful. For example, by asking someone "if their parents know" could trigger an emotional reaction - many LGBT have been ostracized by their families of origin & have formed families of choice. To avoid conversations that are too personal or potentially hurtful, just ask yourself what you would find intrusive or hurtful if the shoe was on the other foot...we are all just human -- & really not that different. Overall, your level of heterosexism is not severe. It is not based on homophobia & can easily change through a conscious effort to acknowledge & learn.

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« Reply #1 on: Jun 9^th, 2003, 4:04pm »

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I didn't even get halfway through before I got bored with the test and I could tell what my score was going to be. Up to that point I scored 0.

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« Reply #2 on: Jun 9^th, 2003, 4:41pm »

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well, well, here we are and here i am telling the truth. who would have ever thought about coming on on a message board. this is just too funny. perhaps there are those reading who i would not rather but...i cannot take this test as i am bisexual. it does not apply to me. you are not the only ueer person here cobain.

since i have been well, i have felt more freedom in exploring my sexuality. ftr, nothing you have said has shocked or threatened me. i attend an affirming church in vancouver and have several gay male friends with your demeanor and sense of play. i hope that you will stick around.

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« Reply #3 on: Jun 9^th, 2003, 5:08pm »

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I scored 0, though I don't know why I took the test since I am also bisexual. Wink

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« Reply #4 on: Jun 9^th, 2003, 5:09pm »

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I thought the test was annoying cause it made me do my own math. ;P

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« Reply #5 on: Jun 9^th, 2003, 5:19pm »

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I'm sure physical beauty makes a big difference how people act. Roll Eyes

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« Reply #6 on: Jun 9^th, 2003, 5:28pm »

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on Jun 9^th, 2003, 4:12pm, Cobain wrote:

Dameon..

Did you get bored with the test cause you are in no way in need of "enlightenment"? See i might not expect that from a straight guy from the south.....maybe i need some enlightenment. Wink

Or did you get bored cause you don't recognize that there are double-standards?

Or you do recognize that there are double-standards....but you really don't give a shit?

And guys....it's not so much a test that you must carefully score and then take as gospel. It's more a "make you think" kind of thing.

I actually just included it as a starting point to discussion. To let you see things from a different perspective.

I got bored because I already know my stance on homosexuals and don't need some test to tell me what I think. I have never had any problem with homosexuals unless they don't respect the fact that I'm straight. Just like you wouldn't like it if a woman hit on you and tried to "turn" you hetero, I don't appreciate it when gay guys hit on me.

Other than that, most homosexuals I've met in my life have been wonderful people. It's funny how most heterosexuals I've met in my life are wonderful people too.

Since I moved to Savannah I've only hung out with about 9 people outside of work and school. Out of those 9, 3 are homosexual and I like hanging out with those 3 better than most of the other 6. One of the gay guys is extremely open about being gay and doesn't really care what anybody else thinks. He is one of the most entertaining people I have ever met in my life.

There is one lesbian I've been hanging out with and I absolutely love spending time with her. She's easy to talk to and there's none of that uneasiness that usually occurs when hetero guys and girls are friends because of the sexual tension. I don't have to worry about whether she's interested in me or not and that makes it so much easier to open up to her.

So there's my opinion on homosexuals in a nutshell. As for your comment about the south, I don't think I quite understand. Are you saying that most people from the south are closeminded, stereotypical assholes? If so, I'd like to know where you got that idea because, while some of us are, most are pretty accepting of any lifestyle.

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« Reply #7 on: Jun 9^th, 2003, 5:38pm »

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on Jun 9^th, 2003, 5:27pm, Cobain wrote:

Burrito....

i dont feel too comfortable interacting with a 14-year-old. But i will agree....beauty is NOT a virture....it's definition is ever-changing....and a "spirit" can often be so ugly, a beautiful exterior hardly makes up for it.

But you're very young if you dont know that it DEFINITELY affects how people treat you.

And there is nothing wrong in loving beauty or knowing what you like. Admitting to yourself what you want in life (be it "beauty" or anything else) is half the battle of your own self-actualization.

PS - But now i'm gonna ignore you again....okay kid? It's just a matter of self-protection.

Hmm, now I wonder if you'd of said any of that if you hadn't known my age.

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What does it mean to be prejudiced in an "average" way? And by prejudiced....i mean that you may "pre-judge" people based on a certain belief system. So if you are prejudiced in an "average" way....do you mean no more than anyone else? Or do you mean a "normal" amount of predudice? Predudice might be normal...but is it ever okay? I mean does saying....everyone is predudiced of someone (including myself) make it okay?

Well First Cobain, pardon my poor explanations, I dont say as much as I would like too because sometimes I just cant find the words. (I speak french)

The average remark was refering only to the fact that I was in the 50%.. wich is half way, middle, average.
No I dont mean no more than anyone else, and I dont mean less either. I am just me, fully me.

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If you feel comfortable sharing....what areas did you score in? What questions have you wanted to ask a gay person about his or her sexuality? And would you be offended if you were asked the same question about your heterosexuality?

Here are some of the questions that I scored in:
At what age did you realize that you were heterosexual?
Do your parents know that you are straight?*
Do you think that people of the same sex could make good parents, whether they have their own children or choose to adopt?

So thats a sample..lol but thats the kind of question I would ask to someone whod be willing to openly talk to me about their homosexuality.

Most of the questions I scored onto were really about what I view as "curiosity" about something I dont really know. So no, I wouldnt be offended if someone was asking me these questions or any questions, as I have been questioning myself about my own sexuality in the past mmmmm6 months maybe. Asking people about something is one of the best way that I know for learning.
I have never had any homosexual (close)friends or relatives when I was young, as I was born and raise in a small community where (to my knowledge) nobody is homosexual. But then, maybe there are and I dont know, I have never asked. Now in my adult life, yes there are people that I consider good friends that are homosexual.... and really I dont think it matters to me to know whos gay and whos not, I prefer to "judge" (right now I wish I knew another word for judge..)people based on their spirit, brain, mind, heart, humor.. you get the idea ? Wink

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to "judge" (right now I wish I knew another word for judge..)people based on their spirit, brain, mind, heart, humor.. you get the idea ?

Hi SIB..I'm Dar. You don't know me yet but I hope you soon will. I agree totally with the above statement. I made some bad decisions when I was younger and found out that a really close friend of mine was gay and due to my own life issues, I turned my back on her and have regretted it every since. I no longer pay attention to what anyone looks like or what their sexuality is. I prefer people with good hearts and good humor. If your heart is not good..that is probably gonna be my biggest turn off these days. I can deal with a person not having humor..I have enough for more than one.

I'm glad to hear that things are going better for you.

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« Reply #10 on: Jun 9^th, 2003, 7:43pm »

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It's never too late to say "I'm sorry".

If you have interest in tracking her down, I'd encourage it! There may be many times she looks back and thinks of you as well and regrets the loss of your friendship.

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it is funny that you said that Rhune cause I really had been thinking about her a lot lately but I honestly can't recall her last name. I'm hoping it will come to me. I am not sure she will listen to me cause I was a real ass at the time but I would like to try...I'll let you know if I ever figure it out and find her.

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If she was a school chum, I recommend checking www.classmates.com
It's possible she hasn't registered, but I've found a huge amount of my old classmates have, and it's easy to track down old highschool and college friends that way.

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awww..no she wasn't. Actually I met her when I was in my early 20's. I had been a senior member of a purchasing team in a bank and the bank got merged with another and I was forced to go to a mortgage file room and had to file all day. It was the most boringest job I ever had. The only thing that saved me was Denise. She was a mortgage customer service rep and needed forms now and then from us and would call down for them. I soon got her to teach me anything and everything about these forms and in the process we developed quite a friendship. When I first started getting to know her and would go over to her place, she had a boyfriend. She was trying to be "normal" so I had no clue that she was gay. I had never even been around anyone gay before since I come from a country town where it is not a spoken thing. She became my best friend and was for over a year and when she finally told me the truth..I reacted probably exactly as she thought I would and shut her out of my life. She was probably one of the best friends I ever had but I never had a need for her last name so I can't recall it. I have been trying to remember for awhile now but it just isn't coming to me and we both left the bank years ago. I don't even know if she is still in NH. She was searching for her soulmate at the time.

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« Reply #14 on: Jun 9^th, 2003, 10:56pm »

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But you're very young if you dont know that it DEFINITELY affects how people treat you.

although this is not something to be encouraged, is it? ultimately, it is what is on the inside of a person that counts, right?

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