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MzWings
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Parents can teach kids to stop abductions
« on: Feb 5^th, 2004, 5:14pm »

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I hope some of you won't be upset that I'm posting yet another article about child safety. It seems to me that kidnappings are becoming more rampant. Either that, or we're being made aware quicker because of the Amber Alerts and media..

(CNN) -- Children may be smaller and weaker than would-be abductors, but with their parents' help, they can learn techniques to resist and escape predators, a child safety expert said. The key to remaining safe lies in not leaving the place where the abductor approaches a child, said Bob Stuber of the Texas-based Escape School, which runs educational programs across the United States.

A kidnapper "wants to get out somewhere by himself," said Stuber, a former police officer and founder of the Escape School. "He may threaten the child, but he's not going to hurt the child right there. That's not what this is about. That takes place later."

Stuber said no neighborhood is immune to the danger of abduction. "So you have to make sure you do instruct your children," Stuber said. "Don't just say, 'Don't go off with strangers.' You have to be more specific."

Parents should instruct their children to fight and resist abductors, even if the predator threatens them, Stuber said.

From the onset of an abduction attempt, children should make as much noise as loudly as possible from the beginning and continually throughout the assault.

"Sometimes kids are afraid to do that because their abductor is telling them, 'If you say a word, I am going to hurt you.' Tell your child no matter what this person says, ... you can make as much noise as you want to." :clapping:

Children should deny requests for help from strangers, which is a common abduction ploy.

Children are "very, very trusting," Stuber said.

"Parents really have to ... start driving that message home, is that you don't walk away with anybody. If they need help, they will get it from another adult," he said.

Stuber says small and simple acts that the youngest of children can perform could go a long way in saving them if they know them.

"All the way along ... there's these little windows of opportunity," he said. "And if the child knows what to watch for, it really only takes about two of these choices to get them out of danger."

Here are a few to teach, practice and review with children.

Outside a car:
Avoid being alone, and don't take shortcuts.

Never walk over to a car for any reason. Getting near and in a car increases the chances of being taken away and hurt.

If approached, do not leave the area.

Do not help an adult you do not know.

Remember 911 calls at pay phones are free.

Scream loudly for help, run to another adult, gripping and holding onto that other person. Stuber said this "Velcro technique" forces the other adult to listen and pay attention.

Rotate arms forward quickly and repeatedly making big circles in the air. This windmill technique prevents a larger and stronger assailant from getting a grip on the moving child. Don't just try to pull away because the adult is stronger. Always rotate the arm to break free of the grip if restrained.

More at http://www.cnn.com/2004/US/02/05/child.safety.tips/index.html

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Re: Parents can teach kids to stop abductions
« Reply #1 on: Feb 5^th, 2004, 9:42pm »

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Not at all, like the protecting your computer stuff, protecting your children is good stuff to have pop up from time to time and remind us all. There are a lot of us on here with young children or young grandchildren at varying stages of development. It's good to have this refreshed.

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Re: Parents can teach kids to stop abductions
« Reply #2 on: Feb 8^th, 2004, 10:21am »

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Reading this reminded me ...

Last week end, we had a "family day" with the in-laws at the mall. (This mall has an amusement park, roller coasters, movie theater, mini golf, ferris wheel, and other fun stuff)

Before leaving home to go there, a thought crossed my mind. We will be 8 adults with one kid. A situation where one think the kid is with the other when the other think the kid is with the other one, only to realize the kid is nowhere to be found CAN happen.
So, I asked Mimi: Do you know what to do if you realize you are alone at the mall suddenly, no known adults around you?
Oh surprise. She doesnt know. I asked her whether she would try to go to a security guard, stay right where she is and wait, walk and try to find us, scream, go to a nice toy store or a nice lady.... She didnt know. She is going to be 5 in 6 weeks. She SHOULD know !
But then, we never taught her that kind of thing, how would she know. Shocked

So, we used that family day to teach her about security in public places.

And now, after reading this post MzWings, I see I still have a lot of "security teaching" to do.

THANK YOU! Kiss

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Re: Parents can teach kids to stop abductions
« Reply #3 on: Feb 8^th, 2004, 10:39am »

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on Feb 8^th, 2004, 10:21am, Sheisback wrote:

And now, after reading this post MzWings, I see I still have a lot of "security teaching" to do.

THANK YOU! Kiss

NO darlin'. Thank you for taking this situation seriously. You may not know this, but you may have saved her life that very day by bringing up this subject with her.

I think the most delicate part of explaining to the children is not scaring them to death. We don't want to traumatize them. It's important to stress, and stress again, the importance and definition of what is a "stranger". Very touchy and tough. Kiss

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Re: Parents can teach kids to stop abductions
« Reply #4 on: Feb 8^th, 2004, 2:16pm »

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You can never post too much on child safety. David and i spend everyday teaching and renminding kids on how they can be SAFE when we are not around. We also from time to time ask them questions to see if any of it sunk in. I am gald to report kids to very well during these question secessions! Grin

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« Reply #5 on: Feb 8^th, 2004, 3:57pm »

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on Feb 8^th, 2004, 2:16pm, Pilar wrote:

You two have made a right on decision to help THEM learn they can be their best protector.

I started a couple of threads in The News too. One of the things mentioned to do was have a code. Say, someone stops a child and tell him/her to come with them immediately because......ohhhhh - their house is on fire or Mommy is really sick.

Cute Elizabeth (from Survivor now on The View) said the other day that she and her mom had such a code. Their's was "grasshopper". If the stranger didn't know that word, Liz was told to head out as fast as she could.

There's something I really abhor bringing up here - but I'm going to. The children -- at some point -- need to know that sometimes people they know (friends, relatives) can't always be trusted. How parents handle this discussion is personal, one-on-one and case sensitive.

Seems the way I handled that was similar in discussions about them being "touched" by a stranger. Regardless of who was doing the "touching" and that Mommy or Daddy had to be right there (meaning doc. appts.) with them. That left little room for them to misunderstand or be talked into something "icky". (Their word for "it")

All this pertained to getting into a vehicle without our permission - be it family or friend. My Dad called me at work one time when he and Mama were in town for a few days. Daddy wanted to go to the store and take Deb and Steven - they said they didn't have permission.

Needless to say - my Dad was p.o.'d and wanted to know what the @#!&*! was going on. I asked him to put Deb on the phone and I told her it was ok to go and that I would bring home a special little surprise after work.

Deb was only four yo at the time....... Wink

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Re: Parents can teach kids to stop abductions
« Reply #6 on: Feb 8^th, 2004, 4:10pm »

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We dont have a "code word" but the kids know what anyone needs to know before they leave with them and they know if NOT they are to make as much noise as possible. They were also trained in how to avoid abduction including ways that even a small child can free him/her self from the grasps of an abuducter

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